Comments on: Its just a matter of how long the love lasts http://www.shaarique.com/its-just-a-matter-of-how-long-the-love-lasts/ That's how life is! Thu, 09 Feb 2012 19:54:27 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.1 By: Ijtema » Hindu girls running with Muslim boys or Vice versa http://www.shaarique.com/its-just-a-matter-of-how-long-the-love-lasts/comment-page-1/#comment-20338 Ijtema » Hindu girls running with Muslim boys or Vice versa Tue, 13 Nov 2007 04:20:48 +0000 http://www.shaarique.com/its-just-a-matter-of-how-long-the-love-lasts/#comment-20338 [...] and Sharique share their views on this complicated matter. I would love a analysis of this from Islamic point of [...] [...] and Sharique share their views on this complicated matter. I would love a analysis of this from Islamic point of [...]

]]> By: Sharique http://www.shaarique.com/its-just-a-matter-of-how-long-the-love-lasts/comment-page-1/#comment-6985 Sharique Wed, 18 Apr 2007 12:28:26 +0000 http://www.shaarique.com/its-just-a-matter-of-how-long-the-love-lasts/#comment-6985 Suja, It was not an inter-racial marriage but inter-religious. I don't think that inter-religious marriage could generate so much of hoopla in the west. Suja,
It was not an inter-racial marriage but inter-religious. I don’t think that inter-religious marriage could generate so much of hoopla in the west.

]]> By: Suja, GaramChai.com http://www.shaarique.com/its-just-a-matter-of-how-long-the-love-lasts/comment-page-1/#comment-6952 Suja, GaramChai.com Tue, 17 Apr 2007 23:25:52 +0000 http://www.shaarique.com/its-just-a-matter-of-how-long-the-love-lasts/#comment-6952 Interesting how inter-racial marriages still generate this much of buzz in the '21st century' Interesting how inter-racial marriages still generate this much of buzz in the ’21st century’

]]> By: 1MuslimNation http://www.shaarique.com/its-just-a-matter-of-how-long-the-love-lasts/comment-page-1/#comment-6910 1MuslimNation Mon, 16 Apr 2007 18:20:07 +0000 http://www.shaarique.com/its-just-a-matter-of-how-long-the-love-lasts/#comment-6910 yeah :smile: yeah :smile:

]]> By: Sharique http://www.shaarique.com/its-just-a-matter-of-how-long-the-love-lasts/comment-page-1/#comment-6849 Sharique Sat, 14 Apr 2007 19:25:52 +0000 http://www.shaarique.com/its-just-a-matter-of-how-long-the-love-lasts/#comment-6849 Planet Apex, Bollywood movies are far away from reality. They are fantasy stories which can never become a reality. Regarding the load time, are you using dial up? If not then I am really surprised :sad: Planet Apex,
Bollywood movies are far away from reality. They are fantasy stories which can never become a reality.
Regarding the load time, are you using dial up? If not then I am really surprised :sad:

]]> By: Planet Apex http://www.shaarique.com/its-just-a-matter-of-how-long-the-love-lasts/comment-page-1/#comment-6842 Planet Apex Sat, 14 Apr 2007 16:36:49 +0000 http://www.shaarique.com/its-just-a-matter-of-how-long-the-love-lasts/#comment-6842 A very interesting analysis. 1 "Youth is fascinated by these love stories depicted in these movies which weighs love above everyone else." 2 "No one feels for this humiliation of the parents because they are seen as villains" 3 "Anyway the story ends right there as future is a guaranteed fairytale." That's 3 reasons why I don't like bollywood films. In Hollywood movies there is atleast a fair ending and more realistic and most of all no fairytale dances. Actuall most Indian films are soft porn perverting peoples minds. India will see the consequence of this only after another decade or two when the family life breaks down with love gone crazy. inshallah I must blog about these 2 issues when I have time. btw your site loads very slowly compared to other blogs. A very interesting analysis.
1 “Youth is fascinated by these love stories depicted in these movies which weighs love above everyone else.”
2 “No one feels for this humiliation of the parents because they are seen as villains”
3 “Anyway the story ends right there as future is a guaranteed fairytale.”
That’s 3 reasons why I don’t like bollywood films. In Hollywood movies there is atleast a fair ending and more realistic and most of all no fairytale dances. Actuall most Indian films are soft porn perverting peoples minds. India will see the consequence of this only after another decade or two when the family life breaks down with love gone crazy. inshallah I must blog about these 2 issues when I have time.

btw your site loads very slowly compared to other blogs.

]]> By: Sharique http://www.shaarique.com/its-just-a-matter-of-how-long-the-love-lasts/comment-page-1/#comment-6817 Sharique Fri, 13 Apr 2007 12:29:36 +0000 http://www.shaarique.com/its-just-a-matter-of-how-long-the-love-lasts/#comment-6817 pi, Thanks for your comment. I don't disagree with your views on arranged marriages and the reason why they stay intact even if there is trouble. pi,
Thanks for your comment. I don’t disagree with your views on arranged marriages and the reason why they stay intact even if there is trouble.

]]> By: pi http://www.shaarique.com/its-just-a-matter-of-how-long-the-love-lasts/comment-page-1/#comment-6794 pi Thu, 12 Apr 2007 13:11:02 +0000 http://www.shaarique.com/its-just-a-matter-of-how-long-the-love-lasts/#comment-6794 the problem with desi arranged marriages is that somewhere down the line it doesnt become about the couple anymore, it becomes more about the family what the family members do and as you mention are in the same "social status" as you are. i really dont think that is right. everyone has a right to choose. and to answer your question, yes it doesnt seem like "society ready for this phenomenon becoming widespread?" then again society is made up of these individuals. so if the individual i.e the guy or the girl cant stand up for the person they want to marry, and are "forced" by their parents, then they are in fact creating this "society". im not saying a love marriage is fool proof. it ultimately depends on the couple. the only thing is there is a less an element of a suprise if you actually marry someone you knew really well, were friends with and were in love with. im totally against arranged marriages where hte couple meet one or two times and thats it. its only after a time do you actually see the person in true light, and not so much in their goody two shoes behavior. and in the case where you get to know them become friends with them and respect them, then its ok to marry in this kind of arranged marriage setting. it doesnt have to be about the filmy love in hindi movies. and as for the western world full of divorces, thats because the compromise threshold is very low. i dont think pple are any different from the west and from the east. but in the east you can stay in a really bad marriage, as you say its a "matter of pride for the family that the couple stays together". it doesnt matter if a guy is abusing his wife, or if a girl dislikes her husband. and most of the time in arranged marriages you wouldnt know all these internal things. coz it looks so hunky and dory to others from oustide. and its quietened down by the family. as long as each is sensible, willing to adjust and kind to each other any marriage should be able to work. the problem with desi arranged marriages is that somewhere down the line it doesnt become about the couple anymore, it becomes more about the family what the family members do and as you mention are in the same “social status” as you are. i really dont think that is right. everyone has a right to choose. and to answer your question, yes it doesnt seem like “society ready for this phenomenon becoming widespread?”

then again society is made up of these individuals. so if the individual i.e the guy or the girl cant stand up for the person they want to marry, and are “forced” by their parents, then they are in fact creating this “society”.

im not saying a love marriage is fool proof. it ultimately depends on the couple. the only thing is there is a less an element of a suprise if you actually marry someone you knew really well, were friends with and were in love with. im totally against arranged marriages where hte couple meet one or two times and thats it. its only after a time do you actually see the person in true light, and not so much in their goody two shoes behavior. and in the case where you get to know them become friends with them and respect them, then its ok to marry in this kind of arranged marriage setting. it doesnt have to be about the filmy love in hindi movies.

and as for the western world full of divorces, thats because the compromise threshold is very low. i dont think pple are any different from the west and from the east. but in the east you can stay in a really bad marriage, as you say its a “matter of pride for the family that the couple stays together”. it doesnt matter if a guy is abusing his wife, or if a girl dislikes her husband. and most of the time in arranged marriages you wouldnt know all these internal things. coz it looks so hunky and dory to others from oustide. and its quietened down by the family.

as long as each is sensible, willing to adjust and kind to each other any marriage should be able to work.

]]> By: Sharique http://www.shaarique.com/its-just-a-matter-of-how-long-the-love-lasts/comment-page-1/#comment-6791 Sharique Thu, 12 Apr 2007 12:23:58 +0000 http://www.shaarique.com/its-just-a-matter-of-how-long-the-love-lasts/#comment-6791 Zennia, I understand about the friendship thing. As a matter of fact it is the most important thing between a couple to exist or else marriages can run into trouble. I also do appreciate your argument that in a love marriage the couple gets to know each other before hand. But are youngsters capable enough of deciding their spouses so early in life? Plus if the see the case of US, where parents have a minimal say in marriages, the divorce rates sky high. Its because they later realise the mistake they have committed and there is no one to make truce between fighting parties. In case of arranged marriages the family comes into picture which can help re-establish the bond. I know I am walking a thin line when i try to argue for arranged marriages as I cannot myself convince the positives of it :smile: But I am totally against eloping! Nirmal, Yes definitely it should be but would the extremist let us live in peace!! Zennia,
I understand about the friendship thing. As a matter of fact it is the most important thing between a couple to exist or else marriages can run into trouble. I also do appreciate your argument that in a love marriage the couple gets to know each other before hand. But are youngsters capable enough of deciding their spouses so early in life? Plus if the see the case of US, where parents have a minimal say in marriages, the divorce rates sky high. Its because they later realise the mistake they have committed and there is no one to make truce between fighting parties. In case of arranged marriages the family comes into picture which can help re-establish the bond.

I know I am walking a thin line when i try to argue for arranged marriages as I cannot myself convince the positives of it :smile:
But I am totally against eloping!

Nirmal,
Yes definitely it should be but would the extremist let us live in peace!!

]]> By: Nirmal http://www.shaarique.com/its-just-a-matter-of-how-long-the-love-lasts/comment-page-1/#comment-6789 Nirmal Thu, 12 Apr 2007 12:06:17 +0000 http://www.shaarique.com/its-just-a-matter-of-how-long-the-love-lasts/#comment-6789 I agree with you Sharique, marriage should be a personal freedom and religion should not be mixed with this. I agree with you Sharique, marriage should be a personal freedom and religion should not be mixed with this.

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