Problem with love is…

Well to begin, with Raju chacha is a pompous moron. I will henceforth use an adjective “Raju chachaness” for pompous moron. Here is what I wrote about him in an earlier post
quote>I met few interesting people on the net and one I would never forget is Raju chacha (click here and here) ….’pompous moron’ describes him best…this is what he writes ‘Need A friend… AM here….’ yeah yeah universal brother ) he has all the time in the world to solve your problem, well only if you are a girl….he is one big crap guy (not exactly sure;) ) I have ever seen…

Thanks for the entertainment bro

The problem with love is that you tend to commit so many idiotic things that you would laugh at them at afterwards, well when the virtual world falls. When you fall in love you tend to create a virtual world around you. There is no girl as good as the one you have fallen in love with. Here are few scraps my friend received

BOY..: HEY MISSIN U ALOT…

BOY..: salaamz…dudette

BOY..: HEY XYZ….I HV 3 MONTHS OLD CRUSH I NVR TOLD YA…REST U THINK
I LIVE IN SOUTH DELHI….LIKE U VERY MUCH.

BOY..: hey dudette,kisne ye ghustaakhi ki apki shaan me..
“HASEEN,
NAZNEEN,
MEHJABEEN,
MASH-HUR-SHAKSIYAT E HIND.
dat much i knw chao..be in touch

BOY..: hey XYZ wana ask if u r free.dat means no b.f its betr u r free to hav ur own way of living..

BOY..: XYZ dis may b d starting of a new era….
i nvr been so much by anything bt wid DIS “logo” HUH I M UR FAN NW….
ITS D CORRECT SAYN..

BOY..: heyXYZ i m a proper delhite…living in south delhi
wher u put up nd wat u do????

BOY..: hey dudette…gv ur yahoo i.d..
so v gonna chat mor i gues…

Then I stepped in and warned him of crossing his limits. To that he replied in XYZ’s scrapbook

BOY..: ND DNT MIND ASK sharique bro….nt 2 b wory

BOY..: wat u say…i m waitin
wel being in delhi i met many bt widout seeing its ma crush on u…
say somthin atleast

BOY..: LUV WIDOUT….SEEING U…BYEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEE

Just see his change of tone. First he wanted to make sure that she is single and create an impression in her mind. But he wasn’t at all serious, if he would have been then he would have never written all these in her scrapbook. C’mon he was just flirting and he was really a very bad flirt. You don’t approach a girl like this, being blunt and abrupt. He just pissed her off and if he had any chances he blew them away with his Raju chachaness.

Ok now to some serious business. True love ..People don’t realise that investing emotions in an affair can be detremental to their happiness later. Its because you keep investing in terms of hope, expectations, emotions, time and money. You are not sure if the girl will accept you or not but then you don’t want to be pessimistic. You accept every flaw in the girl. You cannot imagine yourself without her and for you the world begins and ends with her. Believe me there is no fun as falling in love and trying to win over a girl. You put your 100% and bring to light those qualities in you which were dormant all these years. You explore yourself and exert yourself. You enjoy talking to her. All these hype has been created my movies and media. I still remember a MTV show run by none other that Mrs. Mallika Arora Khan and the flirt Cyrus Broacha exhorting youth to get involved in affairs and revolt against the social norm of arranged marriages. There is nothing wrong in opposing orthodoxies of a social system. As an educated and responsible citizen we should try to break free and bring more open-mindedness. But has this served any purpose? Has our society become less prone to violence, crime against women, child molestation and various other evils which were present before? Or has this modern outlook has brought in new forms of crime and open new vistas to commit felony? This perceived conundrum could be debated at length without any conclusion.

Ok back to the topic at hand. The problem starts when the relationship falls. Your emotions and hopes are dashed to the wall. You feel as if the whole world has fallen apart for you. Here is a diary entry from a friend of mine

My second love happened to be a girl. I was myself amazed at my audacity of actually telling her this. Well i gathered all the courage just because i had to do through email I couldn’t have done so in person…no way!! but it doesn’t matter now as she ditched me. It was going on quite well until i had this out of the box notion of going to meet her and everything just fell apart after that. She ceased all contacts after that..mailed after a long time saying she is just too busy in her life and has no time for me. My debacle of my exuberance started then and the news of her engagement put the final nail in the coffin. I was perplexed, frustrated and apoplectic for the way i was treated by a person i trusted so much. I was so shocked that day that i started loathing everything around me…i stayed, bewildered, in my room for the next week pondering on “what exactly happened after we met!! what more she expected of me? did i not satisfy her elevated expectations of smartness and handsomeness?” these questions kept bothering me for months and perhaps still lurks in me. The whole drama could be described as if a hurricane took everything away from me but what did the hurricane lose….nothing right? Now that everything is over and i realise my mistakes i regret that she doesn’t even treat me like a friend but then thats how life is..isn’t it?
She is just missing a great friend!!

So you see how bad these emotions can get. Here are few more

she could have loved me!

She could have loved me. We could have been happy together. But alas nothing worked out the way I wanted it to happen. I was so closed to being loved by a girl… I did fall in love with her because of her qualities… it was a blind love… I liked the way she interacted; she dealt with me and above all the first girl in my life with whom I talked so much. I shared everything with her, from my childhood stories to present day grudges. I wanted a friend with whom I could share my feelings. I gave her priority over everyone. I wish I was with her or perhaps in her college, things would have been so different. I could have been a happy man now. But everything has fallen apart now and I need to take things under my control before they just slip from my hand. I should be studying damn it!

Ok whatever i should now be more tough and shed that soft image of mine… because it doesn’t help.Look how she exploited me…. i am getting of sick of her now.Mailed her today even… this is going to be my last mail to her after that just delete all contacts.Even if she comes now i am going to say NO and i mean it.. she damn never deserved me!

one year ago i could never have imagined that my life would become so complicated. That yahoo messenger would agitate me! Just a messenger damn it… but it holds a very important place in my life… it was the only source of my communication with her. But now she avoids me.. appears offline to me or perhaps added me on her ignore list… but who cares. I wish we could again be friends. I wish my life returns to normalcy.. i was so happy without these emotional setbacks… why hell did i fall in love with her. So now i need to restart my new life.

So now you see how bad emotions can be. Take my advise in love…never invest in terms of emotions!! Because once they fall, you are going to be hurt. I have personally seen my friend moan their fallen affair. Girls were forcefully engaged, some didn’t love (as you would have seen above) and some were just too occupied in their work to pay any heed to someone’s emotions. Another reason why relationships fall; girls don’t enjoy the same rights as boys, a boy can force his decision on his parents but a girl cannot. All her hollow promises of love are exposed when she is confronted with reality. She finally succumbs to hysterical coercions of her parents.

I know I have been very pessimistic in my post but then this is what i have seen happening to all my friends! And i do agree that few relationships also survive the test of time. I personally know few who are adamant and committed in real sense. I hope they get through but then they are walking a thin line

BTW just to end i will quote Jammy just to make some point..do i need to tell?

I was leaving for office, and as I have learnt from the Hindi movies – it is alright to kiss your wife when leaving for office – I held her close and kissed her good bye. Before we parted, I softly whispered into her ears: “I love you�.
“Will you be dropping the Hutch check today evening?�
For a moment, I thought maybe she hadn’t heard me say “I love you�…but the sweet thing that I am, I took the blame by thinking that maybe it was my mistake and I hadn’t said it loudly enough. I whispered again: “I love you�.
“I know, but will you be dropping the Hutch check today evening?�
There was a time when my “I love you� would get really positive response. So positive that at times I would be forced to call up my boss and say I would be coming in late. Over the last two years, the quality of responses has been dwindling.