There are times I have felt that I should be harsh to people, be insensitive to their emotions and above all be mean. Its because other don’t know how to respect emotions and expectations. I usually make fool of myself by expecting others to reciprocate with the same as passion I show to them. People have work to do in life, they have got job to take care of, they have families and they just cannot sacrifice them for me! Me, a friend of theirs…just a friend of theirs! I don’t expect them others to sacrifice their beloved family or job but what I expect out of a trusted friend in at least a courteous ‘no’! There are ways to tell ‘no’ and people think that being silent is the best way!! Silence indicates a lot; on one hand it displays somone’s inability to interact or act in distressing situations and on the other it shows someone’s lack of concern for other’s emotions. I get pissed when someone uses his silence as his defense….damn I want to hear from you the reason for your NO! I feel cheated when I don’t get my answer. I invest so much in planning things out, taking care of needs and even trying to pitch in my own money but then people are like “I am really sorry..do you want to be leave my job…you are a darling..hope you understand”; I do understand but then I would have appreciated if the same message would have been orally conveyed to me. SMS and E-Mails are cheap and people generally tend to use these but then they don’t realise that are belittling my efforts by doing so.
Anyway I don’t feel like writing more about so close friends.
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hi shaarique,
messed up in emotions…
no offence but just wanna say you something..
people do wrong,they dont meet out your expectations and then they dont tell you directly also..they are wrong and it hurts..
but try to accept these facts..people are selfish and in todays materialize world you dont expect anybody to come for ur rescue..
there are only few lucky ones who get really good people to support them always…
and its only expectations that make us hurt…
just chill!!! do enjoy ur life and do think on these things, give ur time but then once thought forget it..
and start again with new hope to create…
just take care of urself..
Hi Tanushree,
Thanks for those words…but forgetting something is not easy for me..especially if those memories are bitter one for me. I sometimes wonder why i remember all those dates which i shouldn’t!! but easily forget dates on which i should be happy…and then that’s how life is
I perfectly agree with you. I know that people can be selfish and there is no point investing expectation with them. I don’t expect much from them….just a courtesy call would do! but then its ok and i can
manage
hmmm.. u sound so down in your recent post. ok face the fact. people are selfish. and they are your frnds only wen they need u. rem one thing sharique, dont expect ALOT from people excpet ur family.. coz they are the ones who love u and be there for u whenever u want em.
I know being quiet, and ignoring someone. or uc an say avoiding someone is mean n hurts ppl… but theres always a better way to say things out.. whch can make other feel a bit less sad… totally agree wid u tht silence says alot…
anywyas.. u take care of urself. and dont thnk abt ppl too much. tht’l only make u feel bad not em. they wont even bother thnking wat they said or did to sharique..
talk to u sooon
I can understand what what you feel. I’ve gone through the same. There’s just one thing that we can do. Accept that these people are selfish but also not lose hope in courtesy and morals. Being mean will never help. Be what you are and believe me your conscience will be very happy. Stop expecting too much. I too sometimes feel if I could behave as mean as them but I just can’t.
Be what you are.
Pranay,
Thanks for those soothing words. I know i have to be what i am. But then there are times you really feel agitated..and it takes time to regain full control over yourself..i wrote that in that transition period you see
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