What about crime against Men?

While the government and NGOs are up with arm against dowry and atrocities against women, men have been ignored. This statistics prove that

Javeri says that of a total of 58,319 dowry cases registered in the country in 2004, as many as 10,491 (18 per cent) could not even be charge-sheeted as the grounds were frivolous. Of the 47,828 (82 per cent) charge-sheeted, only 5,739 (9.8 per cent) were convicted. In other words, 24,127 (41 per cent) were acquitted as they were innocent, needlessly harassed due to faulty investigation, false complaints and bad prosecution. The Centre for Social Research has indicated that 98 per cent of cases filed under IPC section 498A are false. [HT]

So the new funda seems to be exploitation of the law to implicate men! Fine I do understand that women deserve the special privileges, being a weaker sex and particularly in a patriarchal society like India, but are women always that weak? Aren’t there weaker men? Men who are emotionally,mentally, economically or even physically weak and inept at handling a family, their wives or their work. What about them? Wives do exploit husbands like these to perhaps not the same level of torture as a women is exposed to male chauvinist but still enough for it to be a crime against an individual.

Law can always be exploited for evil wants of anyone. Rich manipulate the law for their advantage. Politicians use the government machinery to get their job done. So why can’t women use ‘leninet’ and heavely ‘bisaed’ laws for their advantage. Afterall men are not the sole source of evil on this planet!

Often families exploit rich NRIs. We have always heard cases in which men trick young girls but the other possibility cannot be ignored. Here is one such case

I am well eductated NRI (Canada). Got back to India in 2002 and married to middle class girl. Due to some differences we got back to india in march 2004, I wanted to get her parents attention over some crazy behaviour of their girl. They are not willing to listen to me, they thought its all my fault and I just wanted to harrass them.I left India on march 2004. Since then I have not gone back to India.

They sent me notice to blackmail me to pay money to them in Canada. If not they will file 498a. I denied. They filed maintenance case in Ahmedabad,Gujarat matrimonical court. Meanwhile they try to make me to visit India. But all there effort fails, I know the face of legal system in India, so afraid to take any risk until my divoce is finalized. I hired a local lawyer who represents me in family court. Court pass order to pay Rs. 15000 per month to my wife. I never get this notice about maintenance order straight from court.[Blog]

Girl’s family was involved in the above case. Marriages where in both sides try to hide these ‘crazy behaviours’ are common. These ‘crazy behaviours’ become visible only after marriage. This is precisely the reason I am against blind arranged marriages, they don’t make sense to me. You are married off to someone you have just met for few hours, something like the movie Vivah, and then after marriage you realise that mentalities don’t match. You try to compromise. That fails. You file for divorce and something like the above happens or even worse. I have seen evil families, who for the sake of money, exploit the other on threats of social status; a divorce is considered a bad thing in our society and still seen as something really ‘bad’.

And then the age old rant ‘men fall easily…men are so emotional…its not the fault of women! we didn’t ask them to fight epic battles for us, it was their emotional weakness and ego that drove them’. Well its true to a very great extent. Men are emotionally not as strong as a women. So is it fair on the part of women to exploit this weakness? Why not! If men can exploit physical weakness of women then why not women? I really don’t know what’s the end to this discussion.

To end this all I want to say is that is the government can make a law for atrocities against women then something similar can be made to protect the rights of men.